LaShara Lashawn

I don’t trust these people however I am trying to trust the process. Being that I am super cautious I found myself getting pretty nervous about meeting anyone. If the guy ask to meet in person too soon for me I wouldn’t even want to talk to them anymore. App/ online dating has this stigma associated with it that it is full of people who are creeps and all they want to do is get you in bed with them or finesse someone out of their money.

Since using this app I have experienced a few incidents like the “Hey beautiful queen,” “your looking good gorgeous,” and the “when can we meet up?.” When I get those I just ignore them and I think that should be expected. So if it happens to you just ignore it. Well I matched with this guy that we will call Mr. T and he was nice fom the begining, asked me different things about myself and showed real interest. We messaged back and forth on the app for about three weeks which was cool before exchanging numbers. Our conversation never got too sexual or inappropriate. There were a few times when he would slip in a comment about what type of man he was sexually and what he liked. I would engage at times but for the most part I would guide the conversation.

After a few conversations we decided to meet up and actually I was excited. I let him choose the place and met him there which is what I always prefer in any first date situation. We met at a bar and the place was really nice, I had never been there before so I did’nt know what to expect. Mr. T . met me and greated me with a hug, he even offered to get me a drink but I declined. Mr. T. was persistent so eventually I ordered a cosmo, I mean he was paying for it so why not. However I strongly urge against being the lush on the first date. I need to see who I am dealing with, I want to be safe as possible and no one like a drunk.

Spolier Alert!!!! I am no longet talking to Mr. T. Unfortunately he had a series of unfortunate events that left him sounding super negative all the time, which didn’t work for me. The meet up went well until he littered and when I mentioned it he gave the most inconsiderate response “its not like its going to go into the ocean!” like did you study geography and the water systems or are you dumb? because we ARE LITTERALLY NEXT TO A LAKE!!! Note for all, when your on a date be on your best behavior but after going out with Mr. T. I now appreciate him for being him self because it made the cut off process easier. The meet up wasnt bad, the location was good, it was in a public well lit place. After the litering incident he still had a chance, Mr. T. seems to be a good dude however he just was not the dude for me.

If could give any advice on meeting up with a person, male or female, I would submit that you mak sure it is on your terms and that you are comfortable. If the time is too late for you then reschedule a time that accomodates both persons. Arrive on your own, it’s the first meet up, I don’t care how good the other person sounded on the phone or how well their text messages make you feel between your legs. Things can change real quick and the last thing you need is to be dependent on the other person. Meet up at a place or in an area that your familiar and lastly let someone know where you are going. I dont believe in dating alone. When I say “don’t date alone” I mean you need to let the people that care about you know where your at and who you might be talking to, a parent, close friend, co worker someone. Most importantly it would not hurt to let the other person know that you have people in your life that love and care about you.

We see too many times that people go out and never come back, it’s best to always keep your safety at the forefront of your mind. Since this meet up I havent connected with anyone else, frankly I barely check the app anymore but I am still open in a sense.