LaShara Lashawn

It’s Febuary and I cant overlook the best to ever do it, so I must mention Black History Month. I’m so greatful to be apart of a beutiful people full of talent, resilliance, strength and everything magical. I am greatful to be making my own history, freely. This is a dream come true for my ancestors, to read and write, attend college, have a diverse group of friends, to have my own business and be able to live as I wish. We have over come a lot but there is still more work to do.

Now on to the day of love, so they say. Valentine’s Day in short was created by this guy name St. Valentine and he wanted to show some love and it stuck, basically it went viral and here we are hundreds of years later still celebrating it. Now the whole baby angel with the arrow and all that is another story I’m not to familiar with but sure, its cute. This lil baby comes and shoots you with an arrow and then you see hearts for that one special person. I think thats the story, if not then its close to it.

There are 4 more days until the big day and I am excited. Valentine decor has been up in the stores since day after Christmas, retail dont be playing at all and I am here for it. It was reported that 54% of the US population participate in Valentine’s Day. It is a big day, retail brings in about 18 billion dollars and flowershops do big numbers as well. However Im here as a spectator because like last year and the year before that I STILL have no Valentine and Im over it.

Valentine’s Day is beautiful to me I mean we have a holiday for everything such as ice cream, different diseases, dogs, teachers just about anything gets observed so why not have a day where we show a little extra love to someone special. For the people who claim to not celebrate it just make me think that they dont want to be “told what to do” and want to go against the grain. Honestly it isnt that deep. This one kills me “guys dont get anything” well maybe you need to have a conversation with your Valentine. A man created the holiday so yeahh, I dont make the rules. I got my man gifts, when I had one of course. As I hope he would treat me to something nice I felt that he was equally deserving. I enjoy the holiday a lot my mom used to celebrate it with my sister and I all the time, it made me feel special and loved. Seeing all the decorations with flowers, hearts, candy, jewlery commercials makes my heart warm.

Welp this year I am single and again with no significant other, I mean I have 4 more days, someone might come forward. In case they dont I have some suggestions I’d like to share about how you can love on yourself a bit this Valentine’s Day. Yes, before I start I am aware that there is a pandemic going on therefore some of these suggestions you might not be able to do or have limited access to.

1. Spa Day. You may have to sneak in through the back but call up your favorite spa and book and nice 60 min massage. If you are able you may find a masuse who does house calls. Release some tension.
2. Movie Night. Hit the drive in!! What would be more fun then getting some friends together loading up with snacks and watching a movie under the stars. If that isnt an option you can order in, get some friends or set it up on a solo tip. Light a candle and turn on a good movie. A romance or romance comedy movie would be fiting. Ladies if you wanna turn it up a bit, pull out that cute lingeire and strut around the house, learn a sexy routine from YouTube.
3. Get yourself something. Ladies buy yourself some flowers, guys you surely can do the same… a pair of nikes might be better. Jewlery is always nice. Something that you have been wanting and just havent hit purchase on your cart on Amazon. Get it!
4. A friends gift exchange. Get a group of friends together or just you and your best friend can treat each other. I think this is a very kind gesture to do among friends.
5. Pour it up. Go bar hoping, get dressed call up the guys/gals and hit the streets. To cold? go wine tasting. Wine tasting closed? Do curb side pick up and get tipsy in the house.

These are just some suggestions that I think may make you feel happier about the day. If you don’t get anything you can do something nice for someone else. It surely does not have to be a sad day by any means, do something you enjoy or do nothing at all and be content in that. I will surely be making some moves, flowers and dinner is on my list as well as an at home spa day night. I am going to try to find Valentine’s Day on Netflix it is my favorite movie to watch on Valnetine’s Day. It makes me laugh, makes me laugh, makes me laugh and it has a bit of a tear jerking moment that lets me know I still have a heart.

I would get a bit pouty about the day but lately and in relaity it is another day and just because I don’t have a “Valentine” surely doesnt mean no one loves me or cares and I just want to share that with you. All of these suggestions are great but they can be even more fun with the right attitude. Keep in mind this Valentine’s Day that you are loved and that special person is out there for you. Take a moment to do something nice for someone else as well as yourself. It is always good to appreciate your singleness and alone time, there are people wishing to have what you have.

I hope you have a great Valentine’s Day weekend and remember love starts within. Love yourself.