LaShara Lashawn

  Dating. It sucks. All the older men are just looking and the younger men aren’t even there or into other things. What is a sistah to do?? I feel like I’m in the arms of the good lord and at the brink of  clicking sign up now for a free month trial for online dating. This cant be life when the good book says that He will provide.

“Im going to pray that the Lord send you a good man.” I promise I’m over hearing this but I am never going to turn down the prayer cause my knees are wore out. As I see it there is a lack of men in the church, or should I say active and seeking that is. I mean, I know plenty of men who go from time to time but not a lot that are really living out the word. As my pastor told me once, we have to make church more “Man Friendly.”

Recently I went to an event and there were a lot of guys there, mostly musicians. I will tell you my views on musicians later. So I walk in and I’m looking around. Everyone is mingling, eating , finding their seats and waiting for the event to start. I see a few that are actually kinda cute then the next thing that comes to mind. Is this dude gay?? I shook the thought out my head and kept walking until I seen someone I knew. By the end of the night I seen one who probably could have been a winner but the next thing is, is he married?  *throws hands up* no one told me about this part.!!!

I never really had to face this reality until recently. I used to hear older women make comments about men being dead, on drugs, in jail or gay all the time and I used to roll my eyes. From my wet behind the ears perspective all the guys I knew and met weren’t any of that and for all I knew I would not be experiencing that problem. Not to mention they sounded super lonely and sad. Like gay….really? there couldn’t be that many gay men around. But to my surprise there is a good population of them out there.

Seeing a cute guy in service then trying to figure out if he is gay or not is just a lot. I’m really glad that ministry isn’t shunning the LGBTQ community out like it used to but goodness. I cant tell sometimes! there is no glitter, no rainbows, no hard switching to distinguish most times. I’m trying to figure out if this man in the 6th row 5 seats down from Sis. Kim is the one for me or the one looking past me at Bro. James! Go to the church to find you a good man they said. No I think Ill pass. The church is like a hospital, so everyone’s a little messed up. Last thing I need to be is the sistah who has dated the entire deacon row. No. I wont have it.

There has to be another way.