LaShara Lashawn

You don’t want to go through the stresses of going to a club, finding a good bar is just too much work but the weekend is approaching and you want to have a little fun. Your trying to get your life right with the Lord so your trying to change your ways even though you still like a lil trap music. So you send out a few “wyd this wknd” text and wait. Your thinking about what little plans you have already committed too and if you are working at all or have to be anywhere extremely early. You check your phone to see a few scattered replies and then there’s that one!!!!!! Your eyes light up as you read it over again. Its your one friend who knows you best, hits the home run of replies. “GURL NOTHING… Have a kickback!” BAM! BINGO! YAAAASSSS!

Right there at your desk your all smiles and looking around because unbeknown to your co workers its about to be lit this weekend!!!!! You log into your bank account to check the cash flow. If it’s payday its good, if not we POTLUCKIN (every one brings a dish and drink). For me I like to provide one large mixed drink, one clear alcohol and a dish. I don’t want to be terrible host. So we got the green light, funds are okay now we gotta get the word out. For me I have to think about what type of kick back I want to have because I have a very diverse group of friends and associates. After that’s decided then I start reaching out. I have to personalize my invites so people know I really want them to come through.

It’s the day of the kickback and I’m pumped! people been calling and texting to confirm, gotta hit the store and get home. I try to take a nap first because I need all my energy. I clean up and then its hits me, what the heck am I wearing!!? This is the second biggest problem of the night. The biggest problem of the night is will I invite a special lil snack for me. I have this one all time snack that’s been around for a while, and there are the ones I know like me but nothing has ever came of it. I think I just don’t want to offend or hurt anyone’s feels. So usually that text goes out last minute. It cuts down the chances of there being to many snacks in the room. Which happened to me and some people weren’t happy.

So the phone rings, not the door bell. People always call first, I think some are just scared to get out the car and actually go to the door and knock and have to wait for it to be opened. Everybody wants you to come out and get them like bruh I sent the addy, follow instructions and the loud music and trust me you will be fine. No one ever really wants to be the first person to arrive but hey its a kickback they always have a slow start. As long as the music is good it can be a success. I like to play games and keep the conversation going. The people that get on my nerves are the weed smokers. They all gotta get up at once and depending on how many people you invite make sure you think of that because if you aren’t careful your whole kickback will be outside and you and a few others will be just looking at each other.

Kickbacks are great well at least they should be. Everyone wants to chill, laugh, have fun, drink in a safe place. I love hosting them, even the clean up part is fun. I am able to just be cute and in my socks with with a good mixed drink in my hand and catch up with friends. If you have someone you want to introduce your single friend to, invite them! sparks just might fly. A good way to test a new flame is to bring em to the kickback and see how they do around your friends. Times like these you don’t forget, it can be such a beautiful things to see all these different people that you grew up with, some family, some close co worker and maybe some people you just met that night and think wow look at how blessed we all are to just be here. Young, black and free, having a good time at the kickback.

You close your eyes to let it all sink in, the music is flowing and your body is swaying and vibin to the beat, you taste the sweet drink that makes all your cares from the week go away, glide down your throat. Then as you begin to open your eyes….. BAAAAAM its MONDAY!!!!