LaShara Lashawn

       This guy walked up to me once, as I was walking in Oakland by this club that had just let out so you can guess the time and the scene. This guy who was much shorter than I ask me if I would be open to dating someone who is shorter than I? I looked at this man up and down for some reason even though I already knew that he was short when he walked up to me. I simply told him Yes.

I dated a guy that was probably my height and only for a day or two it bothered me. It bothered me because I knew when I wore heels I’d be significantly taller then him. So through out the relationship I always wore flats or tennis shoes. I just assumed that my height may be intimidating and I didn’t want him or any guy to feel less then a man because I was a little bit taller. Then one evening he came to pick me up and I had heels on, I went in the house to change shoes and grab a jacket. When I came back out he asked me why I changed shoes. Honestly I changed shoes because I had been in heels all day and my feet had, had it! but subconsciously because I was going to be a little taller than him. I just told him that my feet were tired and that it was cold ( I had on a peep toe heel) which is why I also put on a coat.

His response really made me feel so good. He told me that I didn’t need to do that and that he liked the heels, he even acknowledge the fact that we were the same height. I thought about this night recently and it came to me, maybe God gave it to me actually. The thought was when the guy or when a guy approaches me he can see my height and that with any good guess could assume that if I’m in heels then I will be taller. If that is a problem then he might reconsider. Also if a man is intimidated and questioning himself as a man on account of my height then he probably isn’t the one for me. Then I also felt a boost of encouragement because I shouldn’t have to feel insecure about being tall or wanting to wear heels from time to time. Especially with the man that I am with.

I will say the comments that I get are sometimes annoying when I wear heels. Why must I be “going somewhere special” to put on heels, or it be my birthday or it be for a man or I think I’m better? Now there is nothing wrong with flats, they are pretty trendy but honestly my feet aren’t the smallest and I don’t always want to look like I have flippers for feet. There is something about a good heel that just makes the leg and the attitude glow. This post isn’t for just the ladies as guys love heels too.

So after I gave my response to the guy I told him Id be open and at that point I thought he was going to shoot his shot but surprisingly he didn’t. The shorter man just said “exactly” then he told me to have a good night as he watched me walk away in my heels. So this year I’m choosing more heels and different types and I’m wearing them wherever and when ever. It doesn’t have to be a special occasion. Better yet it is a special occasion!!! I love me and my height so I’m going to stand a little bit taller with my heels on. How bout dat? BOOOOOM. And as for FLATS… who cares about them right now they are flat. Slip in them and go.