LaShara Lashawn

  So I think everyone has that reconnection story. Ya know.. the- we were talking and then we lost touch and then he/she reached out via social media or we ran into each other in the grocery store and now we’re trying to see where it goes, type of thing.. Rite??

     Well I experienced that on many occasions, most times it never goes well. If I ended it, it was for good reason. Now there are some guys who I really liked but at the time they may not have been at the level or ready for what I wanted so I would give a second chance to find out they still weren’t ready or were in an even worse/ difficult position in life then when we were originally talking. COMPLETE WASTE! Most times I already knew this, but I try to give these brothas the benefit of the doubt.

       Now there was a guy who was just awesome!! Great guy, great family, talented, smart and just handsome. I mean dude was very attractive. So we lost touch and years later we reconnected via IG (Instagram). I was pretty excited, I’ve kept up with him through social media and he had surely grown up. There was is a terrible story as to why we stop talking, but I think we just drifted apart, I think he was going through a rough time. So we so happen to see each other at a brunch and I promise it was like a movie. I was standing in line to locate my table and I’m looking out onto the water and there is this bright light that has this guy caught right in the center, he has a white shirt on and a beautiful smile.

   I get the info on the location of my table and walk through the dining area and I see it’s HIM it’s HIM!!!! The guy I lost contact with. He gets up to give me a hug, I wanted to melt, but ya girl held it together. Some quick small talk and then I go on to enjoy brunch, I see him again and we exchange numbers. Fast forward a few weeks and some small conversation via text and we end up going on a date. This date was awesome, great weather, laughs, food and super FUN!  Then we go on a few more dates and they are just as fun, we have great conversation as well.

     Some months had passed, like almost 3 months. It was time for “the talk” I let him know after dinner one night that I was abstinent and head been for quite some time, I was so nervous but I felt that he should know. Things were starting to heat up and our conversations were starting to go route 69 from time to time. His reaction was good he said it wasn’t a problem, I gave him some days to think about it, 4 days to be exact. I means that’s a lot to take in. He said he was good with it and I explained to him my reasons and I was so excited to meet someone who understood! Most guys would run to the hills. 

    While on the phone together I could feel something was off like he had something on his chest. I asked him if everything was okay and then he says “I’m not happy with our non-physical communication.” I was so shocked, like what do you mean?? What are you saying?? “Non -physical communication” what the hell is that!!!? I’ve never been told that before, but I’ve never been committed to being abstinent either. I knew exactly what he was saying he was salty because he wasn’t going to get any cuddy (sex).

    I had thrown a wrench in his plan. I felt bad but I knew that this was for the best. Another cookie saved!

Has anyone ever gone through this?